Hello lovelies! How are you? Lately I’ve been reading a lot of posts about blogging goals and resolutions. I love posts like that cause they always make me feel inspired. I want my blog to be as good as possible and I think setting goals for myself helps me with that. But that’s not what this post is about. With all the goals we set for ourselves as bloggers, it’s easy to feel a lot of pressure. We’re telling ourselves we should work harder, write better, post more often, gain followers faster and there’s nothing wrong with that. But I think it’s important to remember that there’s more than one way to do this thing and no one’s way of blogging is inherently better than anyone else’s, even if they have more followers. It’s okay to break some “Blogging rule”. It’s okay to to fail at some things. It’s okay to not be good at everything. That’s what this post is about. It’s about being bad at something and being okay with it. It’s about owning our flaws and maybe even discovering that our weaknesses can also be strengths.
1. I DON’T EVEN REVIEW BOOKS
I used to think I had to review books to be a book blogger. Well, I’ve been a book blogger for over a year now and so far I’ve written exactly one book review. I simply don’t enjoy writing them and when I try I’m never satisfied with the result. I don’t feel like I’ve expressed the nuances and complexities of what the book’s made me think and feel. I’ve said too much or not enough. I haven’t said what I’ve said beautifully or sincerely or intelligently enough. I’m not smart enough. I’m too pretentious. My writing’s too simple. My writing’s too flowery. I always find faults.
WHY THAT’S OK:
Since I don’t review books, I have to think outside the box to come up with new content and that’s great, since coming up with creative and fun ideas for posts is my favorite part of blogging! It always inspires me and makes me feel excited to write new posts, unlike book reviews which inspire me to hide in a cave beneath the sea.
2. I DON’T HAVE ‘A VOICE’
Don’t worry, I didn’t make a shady deal with a sea witch over a bad case of insta-love (I don’t even like princes, they’re the worst) What I mean is I don’t feel like I have a strong, unique blogging voice that is distinctly “me”. The kind people talk about when they say “Find your voice!” (Which happens to be the most common blogging advice) I just write what I feel like and hope someone likes it?
WHY THAT’S OK:
I might not have found my blogging voice yet, but I love experimenting with different post styles and finding out what feels right and true to me. The blog’s still a work in progress and so am I! To quote one of my favorite songs: Let’s not try to figure out everything at once. Isn’t that thought freeing?
3. I’M BAD AT SOCIAL MEDIA
I’m not on Facebook or Instagram. I only occasionally remember I’m on Twitter, tweet 5 times that day, then forget all about it for another few weeks. I almost never promote my blog or share my post there. I rarely interact with anyone cause I don’t know how to talk to people? I’m an extrovert who loves meeting new people, but something about not seeing people’s body language or hearing the tone of their voice kind of makes me anxious.
WHY THAT’S OK:
Since I only have my blog to focus on that means I have a lot more time to write posts, read blogs, reply to comments and blog-hop, than if I had three other accounts to update and interact on. Which I’m grateful for, cause I love spending time reading blogs and talking to people about books!
4. I DON’T HAVE A NICHE
Beside “Find your voice”, I think “Find your niche” is the most common blogging advice. Now for someone who’s not a book blogger a book blog might sound pretty niche. But those of us who are in the cult know that’s not true. There are YA bloggers, SFF bloggers, Romance bloggers, literary fiction bloggers. I’m more of a…”I like all the books please give me all the books” blogger.
WHY THAT’S OK:
I think this is pretty obvious: I get to read all the books! Sci-fi. fantasy, romance, YA, literary fiction, I love it all and I love my weird, eclectic reading tastes. And I don’t think anyone minds hearing about books that are outside of their preferred genre once in a while either. I know I don’t!
5. I DON’T READ ARCS
In the year and a half I’ve been blogging, I’ve never gotten an ARC. Which isn’t that surprising considering I’ve never requested one. I’m just not sure I want the pressure? I’m a big mood reader, so I don’t like feeling like I have to read something and I definitley don’t like feeling like I have to review something. I wouldn’t even know how to request one if I wanted to and I’m pretty sure being an international reader wouldn’t make it easier. Of course there are books I wish I could get my hands on early, and maybe I’ll change my mind about this. But right now, I’m clueless and totally okay with that.
WHY THAT’S OK
Thankfully books don’t come with expiration dates y’all! That’s what my mom always says when we stare at our stacks of unread books with equal parts joy and terror. I don’t think it’s any less exciting to read or blog about a book after it’s been published. Besides there are plenty of other wonderful bloggers who read and review arcs.